When one person in a relationship has been viewing pornography, their partner can see this as a betrayal. In these situations, it’s common for there to be some hiding or lying on one side and potentially some betrayal trauma once the porn use has been disclosed. So, how can you create...
While there are lots of people out there bragging about losing weight or breaking other habits that aren’t serving them, there aren’t many people sharing their success with quitting pornography. This fosters a belief that quitting porn is impossible, or that you have to be stuck with...
We are at episode 100! I’m so proud to have reached 100 episodes in as many consecutive weeks, and I’ve learned a lot along the way. So, in this episode, I’m sharing the top lessons that have come out of making this podcast over the past two years.
There’s been a ton of...
Can you guarantee success? The truth is, no one else can guarantee success for you, but you can make it a certainty for yourself. Nobody else out there can do the work for you. This is all about taking responsibility for your own healing, and cultivating a mindset that makes success inevitable.
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As humans, we naturally want to do all the things. We set goals like losing weight, improving our finances, quitting drinking, working on the house, traveling more, and quitting pornography all at the same time. However, if you want to challenge yourself and achieve a new goal, like quitting...
When you have a big, lofty goal like quitting porn, but you don’t truly believe you can do it, how do you move forward? When we go after something new, it’s common to have a looming monster in the background telling us, “You can’t do that.” Well, this episode is all...
So many people who are struggling with unwanted porn use believe that if they allowed themselves to feel acceptance of where they are right now, they would immediately start justifying their actions and therefore won’t try to change. But what I have found is that the opposite is true.
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This week, I’m introducing you to a great tool you’re going to want to start using immediately. If you’re a regular listener here, you’ll already know that emotions are one of the most underrated fuels for your actions, and just like the food you put in your body,...
I recently spoke with a client who was going through a rough transition period at work. He wanted to figure out how he could feel the emotions he was experiencing without getting bogged down by them or turning to pornography when I asked, “What are you doing to nurture yourself through...
When clients come to me for help quitting porn, they often feel out of control, like they have no power over their pornography use. This is a feeling that generally comes from not having a deep understanding of the science behind the habit, but there is also another place it comes from.
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Last week, we dove into the reward system in our brain that produces a seemingly automatic urge or over-desire for pornography. I touched on the subconscious training of our brains to seek out dopamine-producing substances, whether that be porn (or sugar in my case), and I promised you a...
I received a question in the Overcome Pornography for Good program this week during one of our coaching sessions. Someone asked, “I don’t know what I’m buffering from. Is it possible that this can just be a habit and not just a buffer every time?" And my answer was yes.
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