When you feel shame around having viewed pornography, blame is never far behind. Whether you blame yourself and experience more shame or you find someone else to blame for what you’re going through, this is a trap many of my clients are stuck in when they first come to me. In this...
This week, I’m sharing a replay of one of the most important episodes of this podcast to date all about one of the foundational things you need to understand if you want to quit viewing porn and never go back to it: urges.
People come to me absolutely terrified of their urges,...
You may have heard me talk before about stop, drop, and breathe when you’re experiencing an urge to view pornography. Well, today’s episode is all about the breathing aspect of this calming mechanism so we can help your body get back online and you can feel a little more in...
When quitting pornography, people tend to take a very short-term view. You might be thinking that if you can just get through this week without viewing porn, then you’re on the right track. But the truth is, we need to look at the long term, and this requires that you stop thinking...
This week, I’m sitting down with returning guest of the show, Tina Gosney. Tina is a Certified Family Relationship Coach who helps LDS parents who have a child leaving the church, and she’s also an incredible coach and asset in our Overcome Pornography for Good program.
Tina...
Have you ever found yourself feeling desensitized to porn and the process of trying to quit? You feel miserable, exhausted, and you simply just don’t care anymore. Maybe you feel numb viewing porn where you don’t feel good about it, but you also don’t feel bad or experience...
How do you react when you have an intrusive thought about viewing pornography? You might try to ignore it, you might respond to it, or you might try to replace the thought with something else. However you’re currently reacting to these kinds of urges, I’ve got something new for you...
Growing up, we receive the message that anger is bad and we should avoid it at all costs. But if you know what we do here, we’re all about neutralizing emotions in the name of healing. So, in this episode, we’re redefining how we look at anger and how best to deal with it.
What...
Something that comes up a lot in the coaching we do over here is people mistaking self-love for indulgence. Self-love is super important when you’re working on your thoughts and feelings, but people sometimes think that operating from self-love means you can do whatever you want and cut...
What stories do you have about yourself? Whether you’re conscious of it or not, you have a story that’s playing in your mind all the time of who you are, what you’re doing, and what you’re capable of. Sometimes, this story is extremely painful and creates a lot of...
For many of us, the beginning of a new year is when we start talking about how much we want to change, our resolutions, and the new habits we want to build. However, before we do that, we need to take a close look at all the amazing things that have already happened.
So this week, I’m...
I was recently a guest on Michael Anderson’s podcast Everyday Impact. In each episode, he asks his guests one simple question: if there was one lesson you would share with the world on how you’ve built a life of meaning, what would it be? So, in this episode, I’m answering...
